Every woman asks herself, Am I beautiful? Beauty is a major theme of God and Boobs the book, with an entire chapter called “Roses” dedicated to the topic: Am I beautiful? I’m acutely aware of this issue in almost every conversation I have with women. And, I am so proud of Colbie Caillat for tackling this question head on.
I don’t have to be a mother to imagine that the most tragic loss a woman can face is the death of her own child. I remember years ago sitting across from a young woman who shared with me the depths of her own despair, desperate for healing after infant loss. And now, I’m so proud to announce that same woman is courageously sharing her story with others in her new book, Battle Cry: Hope and Healing in the Battles of Life. In her book, Kris Power tells about the tragedy of losing her daughter at birth, dealing with severe medical complications, and then building her life anew.
God often speaks through dreams. I had a dream this week that I want to share. My hope is that it will encourage others as it has encouraged me. You are invited to practice your dream interpretation skills. I will offer a dream interpretation of my own.
The first woman your daughter will ever see as beautiful… is YOU. She will watch you comb your hair, put on your make-up, get dressed and then look yourself over in the mirror. She will look for a model of true beauty. You may not think she’s watching… but, she’s watching everything. She sees the times you pinch your thighs and wince. She notices when look at your side profile, while sucking in your gut. When you look at your face applying gloss to pouty lips, she’s watching. When you feel pretty, it shows in your countenance, and she can tell. She can tell that she’s found true beauty.
The world’s first normal “Barbie” doll is making headlines this week for reaching it’s fundraising goals in its first day. Lammily, named for its founder Nickolay Lamm, has the dimensions of an average nineteen year old girl. The company’s tagline is “Average is Beautiful.” If you’ve read the chapter “Beauty” from my book, God and Boobs, then you know that I think every woman is beautiful. I love this tagline!
Cate Blanchett stole the show at the 2014 Oscars for exuding both beauty and brains. Cate had the courage to exalt women in an evening that centered around male actors (the first award was for best supporting male actor and the last individual award for best male actor.) Her acceptance speech for her role in Blue Jasmine was compelling, brave and honest. Plus, her dress was gorgeous. Proving a woman can have both beauty and brains. Let’s talk stats…
I’ve received numerous requests from women who want to hold a God and Boobs book discussion with their friends. Many have asked for a book discussion guide to help facilitate discussion. Get your online God and Boobs FREE Discussion Guide. This book discussion guide is designed to encourage friendship through intimate sharing and reading reflection. This is not a Bible-study; however Bible references are listed and reading is encouraged.
I was taught abstinence at my Christian high school and college. I was primarily taught that the goal of abstinence was to “save myself” for my future husband. My very real, tangible, daily, sexual desire was on hold for some mystical, vaporous ideal of a man. I hadn’t even considered how it would affect me that women now marry later – into their late twenties and early thirties, if at all. It didn’t matter how long I would have to wait for sex, I would wait as long as need be, because the nucleus of my sexuality was a man. In my heart of heart’s I believed: It’s my job to practice abstinence, so that I will be pure for the man God has chosen for me to marry. I owe my future husband the gift of virginity.
As we continue our trusting God series, we will look at a third belief that helps us with trusting God. If we believe that God is good, and therefore wants the best for us, then it helps us to trust in God despite what we feel, observe or experience in the present. The tricky part to trusting God has to do with how we measure goodness. Is ‘good’ something I want? Like a piece of candy? Or, is ‘good’ something that is in my best interest? Like an apple?
We are continuing our trusting God series. (Be sure to share with your friends who are recent college graduates, and struggling with trusting God – I have a special message for you gals.) Trusting God is often discussed in such blase terms, as though one should assume that we can all easily trust God. However, that’s simply not the case. Trusting God can be as challenging as learning to trust people. Whenever we feel disappointed, it’s easy to to think that God isn’t on our side. But, God wants us to be on His side. That’s what trusting God is all about… surrendering our concepts for God’s way. There are three beliefs that will help us learn to trust God. We discussed the first last time: “God is always with me, no matter my circumstances, no matter what.” The second belief is this: “God is bigger than me. Only God can see the bigger picture.”